Death and EverymanTo pick up where I left off many months ago, motivated by two pieces which appeared in the October 23 issue of the Nation, Richard Goldstein 's "Death Trip" and Walter Mosley's "Cultural Famine: A Cycle." I don't know if the editors planned it this way, but they were were aptly juxtaposed. Walter Mosley, best known for his Easy Rawlins mysteries, is troubled by the disjunction between world-wide famine and "another kind of famine: a dearth in the human soul", " a spiritual famine;" "psychic anexoria." He writes of "the barren emotional landscape" which exists among " our people" as well as elsewhere in the world. For Mosley "our people" means Black Americans but not only, we're all included. He observes a cynical and hopeless apathy among us even while "we are surrounded by riches and blessed with potential unequaled in human history." What has gone wrong he asks, hoping to generate a conversation about it with his readers.
As if saying "Amen!" to Mosley, Richard Goldstein's "Death Trip" focuses on two celebrated authors, Joan Didion and Philip Roth, who, in their most recent books, exhibit, he says, the same "self-obsession" and "the self-enclosure" which afflict the rest of our nation. This was not always the case, for both are known for their nonconformist views. But when it comes to facing death they disappoint us, leaving us with the sense that death is an entirely private experience of no meaning or significance outside of or beyond itself. The rest of the world is shut out. In her memoir, "The Year of Magical Thinking," Didion recounts the sudden death of her husband and the (ultimately mortal) illness of her only child. (See previous posting). Didion leaves the impression that she had at no time contemplated death, that of her husband and child, or her own. It is hard to believe that she did not, but if she had, we are never let in on what those thoughts might have been. Instead, we learn she turned to those who supposedly could instruct her on the subject—Freud, Sherwin Nuland, and Emily Post (whom she found the most satisfying). Although the book was hailed among her literary peers as "an act of consummate literary bravery", the ordinary reader will learn more about the lifestyle and stiff upper lip of a literary celebrity than of what it feels like or means (to her) to have lost a loved one in death.
As does every reviewer of Philip Roth's Everyman, Goldstein compares it with Tolstoy's masterpiece, The Death of Ivan Ilyich. In that story we have "still the most powerful account we have of death amid prosperity, the spiritual and the social come together at the moment when a moribund civil servant, filled with bitterness at his fate and family, realizes that living well means living for others." The closest Roth's Everyman (he has no name) comes to it, says Goldstein, is in his sentimental attachment to his mother and father, now long dead.
Although belatedly, Everyman tries to reach out to others. Realizing that his retirement had become a "self-generated form of confinement" he decides to do something about it. He organizes painting classes for the Jersey shore retirement community to which he moved after 9/ll. But his students are as obsessed as he is in their own declining health and thoughts of their own demise. "He tried to be generous to them all, even the hopeless ones usually those very ones who came in and said right off, 'I had a great day', I feel inspired today." He encourages and befriends one woman, the best of all his students, who unable to bear unremitting pain any longer commits suicide. He has a loving relationship with his daugher Nancy. As he grows older and sicker and nearer to death himself, he gets in touch with each of his old friends from the advertising agency where he had worked when he learns that they too are ill and perhaps dying.
But he has much to regret and is tormented with guilt especially about his first two wives. His sons by his first marriage, will not forgive his having abandoned them and their mother for another woman. His second, relatively content and stable marriage to Phoebe ends when she learns of his affair with a model, half his age. Envious of his older brother's good health, he spurns his brother's good will and attentiveness towards him. He feels guilty about this, but only as he gets sicker does he try to make amends.
But deeper than guilt is regret at the loss of his "male allure" that he is now no longer "capable of germinating the masculine joys." "No hocus pocus about death and God or obsolete fantasies of heaven for him. there was only our bodies, born to live and die on terms decided by the bodies that had lived and died before us. If he could be said to have located a philosophical niche for himself, that was it—he'd come upon it early and intuitively, and however elemental, that was the whole of it. Should he ever write his autobiography, he'd call it The Life and Death of a Male Body." As his health wanes, his isolation and loneliness intensifies. "There's no remaking reality," his daughter Nancy had reminded him, at the funeral of his mother. "Just take it as it comes. Hold your ground and take it as it comes." Bleak advice, but what else is there to do to say? Or to think? Nevertheless, Roth's Everyman thinks about death a great deal and has done so since he was a child. He also has many questions, but they go unanswered and lead nowhere. There are no personal epiphanies, no consoling insights.
Unlike Tolstoy's Ivan Ilyich, Didion and Roth's Everyman have no spiritual resources to guide them through death and grief. In this they are not typical, but certainly not alone. There are countless individuals who do not have or want the comfort and hope that religion offers. Goldstein credits Roth and Didion for refusing to "gild the grief with any higher purpose." What he misses in them however is that there is no reflection at all on how "each death is situated in a suffering community" and no awareness of how every death "reveals the conditions of life." With Didion and Roth, the encounter with death is experienced as solely personal, self-enclosed. The idea, Goldstein observes, that "embracing life around you" in which you can find solace, doesn't seem credible to them. The only references, in Roth's Everyman, to the world beyond himself and his immediate family are, in passing, to the Korean War (in which he had served) and to September 11. It was that fatal day which made him decide to leave New York and move to a retirement community in New Jersey. But what his thoughts might have been about that day we are not told.
An awareness of death as our common human experience, and not just a personal one, as Goldstein suggests, may not bring the solace that religion brings to believers, but can be a means of transcending isolating, self -absorption. Ironically, it comes too late to Everyman. Roth seems to give a hint of this, if ambiguously. Going under anesthesia for his last surgical procedure, Everyman has a blissful, nearly ecstatic moment:
Oh, the abandon of it, and the smell of the salt water and the scorching sun! Daylight, he thought, penetrating everywhere, day after summer day of that daylight blazing off a living sea, an optical treasure so vast and valuable that he could have been peering through the jeweler's loupe engraved with his father's initials at the perfect, priceless planet itself—at his home, the billion-, the trillion-, the quadrillion-caret planet Earth! he went under feeling far from felled, anything but doomed, eager again to be fulfilled, but nonetheless, he never woke up again. Cardiac arrest. He was no more, freed from being, entering into nowhere without even knowing it. Just as he'd feared from the start.